Just because they need the help, doesn’t mean they’ll accept the idea of home care. There are solutions!
The decision for a senior to accept help is not always an easy one, especially when it comes to personal care. This life change often represents a loss of independence, and the realization that they can’t do as much as they used to. This can all be very depressing for them.
If your loved one is resisting help, it is important to be respectful of their decision. However, it is crucial that proper care be put in place, so it should be done in a manner that helps them ease into this major lifestyle change.
Change can be difficult for many seniors. Be patient and keep the following suggestions in mind:
- Introduce the idea gradually. Give them time to accept the idea.
- Offer a test run. They may be willing to try a caregiver for a short time, especially if they know they can change their mind later.
- Sometimes parents are more willing to accept a caregiver’s help if it is presented as being for the family caregiver’s benefit.
- Start the caregiver with household chores, NOT personal or “hands on” care.
- Gradually introduce these other tasks as familiarity grows.
- Help your parent visit a few nursing homes to review their options. Most seniors prefer to stay in their home and may be willing to accept the help required to stay there.
- Often people will listen to their doctor. Ask their doctor to suggest a plan that includes a caregiver.
- Often, your loved one may be concerned about the cost of services. Remember that most of today’s seniors grew up in the Depression and World War years. Money is always on their mind.
The Retire-At-Home Calgary Approach:
We’re no stranger to resistance from seniors. Most of our services have been initiated by the adult children of our clients where they see a decline in health of their mom and dad, and the biggest concern is that their parent won’t accept the help they need.
That’s why Retire-At-Home Calgary always starts with a free, no-obligation nurse assessment. During this assessment, the nurse will have a one-on-one conversation with your loved one to help understand their concerns, fears, and even their resistance to the idea of a caregiver. By helping them understand that their independence will be maintained, and not taken away, we hope to break down these barriers and get them to accept the help they need.
Our nurses are trained in dealing with these situations and, although the conversation is never easy, we can often help our clients feel more comfortable with the idea of accepting help.
In situations like these, we always suggest starting services slowly and gathering feedback from our client, to ensure they feel part of the decision making process and truly comfortable with the caregiver.